When a difficult situation doesn’t change, you get to and that is how you discover who God really is for you in that moment. That’s when life can be glorious: Even in the midst of absolute hell, you discover Heaven. We can learn how to fight, how to challenge, how to contend for things, but it’s best if you learn how to fight out of a deep place of refuge. It’s so important that God is your refuge as well as your fortress. He is your place of safety.
(from A Way In The Wilderness)
Holding onto a grudge means that we have made a decision to continue our own suffering. We have provided a safe harbor for our misery, grief, pain and anger. Resentment and bitterness will keep the grudge safe so that it can work its power on our hearts. The poison in our system can affect everyone us. It creates an atmosphere that touches everyone around us, from the youngest to the eldest. Only when you relinquish the pain can you start to live again.
(from Radical Perceptions)