Fierce Marriage: What does it mean to have eyes for each other?


What does it mean to have eyes for each other? Simply put, it means that you’re each others’ ultimate standards of attractiveness. Let’s explore.

We live in a big world full of billions of people. It’s unrealistic, unhealthy, and unproductive to compare your husband or wife to everyone else. If we’re undisciplined with our eyes, there will be countless opportunities where the “grass seems greener” just because it’s unfamiliar.
However, when you set your husband or wife as your ultimate standard of what you find attractive, they become the one and only person in the entire world who can satisfy your desire. It’s about appreciating and being grateful for the husband or wife God has given you.

Our culture champions desire above all else. “If you want it, it’s your right to have it!” That’s just not true, or healthy. Our desires are not naturally aligned with what’s best for us, and they’re certainly not aligned with God’s best by default. (Example: why can’t binge-watching Netflix and eating cartons of ice cream just be ‘good’ for you??) So we must choose to set our eyes on good desires. We must let the gospel inform our desires and motivate our actions.

Consider Philippians 4:8: “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.” The verse prior to that says that the peace of God will “guard your hearts and minds”. The very peace of God is enough to find contentment in him and all he provides. Christ is enough! Everything else he gives is a good, gracious gift… including your spouse.

As married couples looking to build a healthy, lifelong union, we must be on guard. We must choose to have “eyes only for each other”. Doing so affords you the great joy of finding full pleasure, enjoyment, and contentment in each other.

Stay fierce,
Ryan & Selena

Graham Cooke: Spiritual warriors joyfully and humbly count on God to come through.


Spiritual warriors joyfully and humbly count on God to come through. No matter what the situation is that they find themselves in. They have an assurance of God’s heart towards them. They are absolutely positive that the Lord is willing to help them. They are utterly convinced that He is incapable of letting them down. Therefore, in times of warfare and adversity they have a boldness and the courage to stand firm in God.
(from Way Of The Warrior)

Graham Cooke: Your testimony is not what you were like before you got saved; that’s your history.


It’s really important that you know who Jesus is for you. Your testimony is not what you were like before you got saved; that’s your history. Your testimony is, “This is what God is like for me all the time. This is what I’m discovering. This is what I’m enjoying. This is who God is for me. This is my testimony of the nature of God in my life and I have physical, tangible evidence of the nature of God in my life. I can tell you story, after story, after story, after story, after story. I have too much evidence. I know what God is like.”
(from A Certain Sound)